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Marriage

I am registered with the Attorney General’s Department to perform marriage ceremonies and every wedding ceremony I perform must conform to  the legal requirements of the  Marriage Act 1961 and Marriage Regulations 1963.12227564_10206856432641696_5068325806136770440_n

My role as your wedding celebrant will cover a range of topics – including advising you of the availability of pre-marriage counselling, completing all the legal forms,  working with you to create the ceremony you desire, conducting the marriage ceremony and registering your marriage with the Office of Births Deaths and Marriages.

I will guide you through the planning of your wedding ceremony and,  by getting to know you, and listening to your needs, I am sure I will be able to help you create a ceremony that is as unique and individual as you are.12227811_10206856432361689_1285855946446926264_n

The Ceremony

Most civil wedding ceremonies last for 15 – 30 minutes.  The wedding ceremony is a public declaration of your love for each other and the promise of commitment. The words chosen need to reflect your personalities, beliefs and values and be unique to you as a couple.

WEDDING OUTLINE: Optional & Essential Parts

Some parts of the wedding ceremony are essential to the legality of the ceremony and must be included.  Other parts are optional.  I have set these out below.

Introduction (optional)

A welcome followed by the beliefs surrounding marriage. Can also include introduction of particular family members, bridal party, friends or any special circumstances.

A Reading (optional)

Your choice of verse or prose or lyrics from songs or whatever you find or write that expresses your feelings, beliefs and values.  I will provide you with Examples of Readings from which to choose the one right for you.

Giving Away (optional)

This is a traditional ritual symbolising the ‘giving’ into care of the bride/groom from one family to another. Children from a previous marriage may be included in this ritual. An alternative could presenting the bride and groom to be married to each other – by parents, particular friends, or the entire gathering.

The Monitum (essential)

The marriage celebrant is required to recite the monitum from the Marriage Act that reminds you of the legal and binding nature of the marriage and includes the legal definition:

“I am duly authorised by the Commonwealth of Australia to conduct marriages according to law. Before you are joined in marriage in my presence and in the presence of these witnesses, I am to remind you of the serious and binding nature of the relationship into which you are now about to enter. Marriage, according to the law in Australia, is the union of a man and a woman to the exclusion of all others, voluntarily entered into for life.”

The Asking (optional)

Formal questions asking your intentions: “ Do you etc.” with the answers “I do.”

Vows (Essential)

Your promises. They need to acknowledge your lifelong commitment but can also include anything you wish to promise each other. You can write them yourselves or choose from a list of examples or find from some other source however they must contain the following phrase:

“I call upon the people here to witness that I…………..take………..to be my wife/husband.”

I will provide you with Examples of Vows from which to choose the ones right for you and of course you can always write your own.

Exchange of Rings or some other symbolic act (optional)

The exchanging of rings is a time honoured symbolic act expressing the heartfelt bonding between two people. Other symbolic acts include: sand blending,  warming of the rings,  sharing of wine,  and other rituals derived from particular cultural traditions. You can choose to have as many rituals or symbolic acts as you like.

A Reading (optional)

Your choice of another reading to conclude this part of the ceremony.

I will provide you with Examples of Readings from which to choose the one right for you.

Declaration (essential)

I formally declare that you are now married and invite you to kiss each other to seal the ceremony.

The Signing (essential)

There are three pieces of documentation, which need to be signed by bride, groom, two witnesses and the Celebrant.

Presentation of the Certificate (essential)

I formally present the certificate and invite guests to come forward and congratulate the
couple.

Other things to consider:

• You may want to consider incorporating culture specific rituals and symbols.

• You may want to consider how to include children from previous marriages if that is appropriate.

Rehearsal

I recommend at least one rehearsal, preferably at the venue, to check sun positioning, timing and sound projection. It is also helpful to feel familiar with the ceremony and the surroundings.  All persons who have a role in the ceremony should attend.

Venue

If it is an outside venue, I recommend a back-up venue be arranged in the event of bad weather.

PA System

 It is a legal requirement that all guests can adequately hear the ceremony.   If needed I will provide a professional PA system (at no extra cost).

 Music

 Ideas for music can be discussed.

 If you would like to organise an obligation free chat about your special day,  please phone me on 0429770017 to arrange an appointment.

Email: info@idoidoceremonies.com.au